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Childcare Options for the PhD Candidate

Childcare Options for the PhD Candidate

Though you are technically in school, a PhD program is going to be much more work intensive than an undergraduate or even master’s program.  You will need a full work week to dedicate to your studies every week.  I know we all want to be seen as super moms and dads who can of course watch the kids, study, write an award-winning book, and bake beautiful cupcakes on a lazy Monday, but reality is to focus you must have some…

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Mommy groups: The case for and against

Mommy groups: The case for and against

I just joined my first mommy group.  I’ve been tempted to join one many times over the past 4 years of being a mom, but never had the courage.  I have made several mom friends from library groups and daycare and I cherish these friendships, but they are hard work.  Being a part of a mommy group sounds like the best of both worlds; meet up with other moms and kids regularly without having to make the plans or feel…

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Mom-poster syndrome

Mom-poster syndrome

In the realm of PhD students, we talk about imposter syndrome a lot.  Imposter syndrome, according to wikipedia, “is a concept describing high-achieving individuals who are marked by an inability to internalize their accomplishments and a persistent fear of being exposed as a fraud” (source).  I would like to talk about another kind of imposter syndrome felt by many of my child-toting friends, mom-poster syndrome. I clearly remember the first few days after my first child was born.  She was…

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‘Is the father involved?’ and 3 other phrases uttered to the PhD student mom

‘Is the father involved?’ and 3 other phrases uttered to the PhD student mom

When I started my schooling, I knew I needed to be my own cheerleader and champion.  I walked into the classroom purposefully and tried my hardest to excel early on in my grad school career to quell any fears that I was going to be a lesser student due to my outside commitments.  Despite my own confidence, I still heard and overheard many comments that made me absolutely cringe.  If I had not already resigned myself to the existence of…

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Three free short outings for kids – or how to get the kids out of the house when you have a thesis to write

Three free short outings for kids – or how to get the kids out of the house when you have a thesis to write

If you are home with your kids on a weekday, it may feel as if you need to be writing or researching or studying. Many times these things are almost impossible with the little ones at home. When I first started my PhD, my family was 2 kids lighter. With only one little person running around, I was able to complete a respectable amount of work on the days she stayed home. With 3 kids running around, there are days…

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Schedule of a mommy PhD candidate – with the kids at home

Schedule of a mommy PhD candidate – with the kids at home

Getting work done when the kids are home is never an easy task.  But sometimes, it just needs to get done.  I keep my kids home with me 2 days a week when I am (supposedly) working.  In order to get things done, I need to keep a strict schedule and yet be open to mishaps or changes as necessary.  I never leave important tasks to times when the kids are home, so if something is due Wednesday and the…

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Pros of starting graduate school when you already have a child

Pros of starting graduate school when you already have a child

Graduate school (especially a PhD program) overlaps with many of the child bearing years.  In general, most of your 20’s will go to the pursuit.  For this reason, the debate frequently comes up whether or not a student should have a child during graduate school.  Personally, when I started graduate school, I didn’t need to consider this issue because I already had one child and had concrete plans of having more.  Though many of my fellow students did not understand…

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